Question for Everybody

[jhameia]

There are things I'm trying to put together for future reference, trying to articulate some things for myself. Stuff like, how do I know when to not fuck with this person, how do I know this person needs to be distanced from, how do I know something shady is going on, because of some little things they say and do, some ways that they act which individually, contextually look okay but in a bigger picture is kind of fucked up. What makes me feel like my trust is being cultivated to fuck someone else over, what makes me suspicious? And for all that we know that abusers seem like perfectly nice people until they escalate, there are little cruelties they do to us that hint at further escalation and that's the time to pull back and not trust.

I mean, I'm SURE I've got some general rules I follow which aren't just "gut instinct" but I'm having trouble articulating them.

But to sum, how do you know when someone is bad news?