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Went to Comic Arts LA today with Rubato! On the way we chatted about dieselpunk and stuff. Attended a panel about, lol, comic panels and form and structure. Shopped a lot! Unfortunately, Sawdust Press had run out of their sea monsters punny Valentine cards, but they still had some samples of the prints, and I got "That is A MORAY" which still cracks me up everytime I read it. There're a couple of things which I got for other people (have a print of a biker chick that made me think "Wilma!" and there's a little accordion book about sheep for my brother

Also ran into another Tumblr friend (and by run into I mean, I saw her from like four feet away and was like "wait..." and it wasn't until she was much closer to me that I called her name and yay XD).

Rubato and I got some lemonade, then we went to have hot pot! And wandered in 99 Ranch for a while. She bought some joss paper... we're thinking of making a trip to a temple to burn the stuff (I would burn it in my patio but the last time I did it, I felt really guilty about the smoke). I got some jellies; the students are having an exam next week so I like to give them something to stay awake.

A good day! If expensive.

Question for Everybody

There are things I'm trying to put together for future reference, trying to articulate some things for myself. Stuff like, how do I know when to not fuck with this person, how do I know this person needs to be distanced from, how do I know something shady is going on, because of some little things they say and do, some ways that they act which individually, contextually look okay but in a bigger picture is kind of fucked up. What makes me feel like my trust is being cultivated to fuck someone else over, what makes me suspicious? And for all that we know that abusers seem like perfectly nice people until they escalate, there are little cruelties they do to us that hint at further escalation and that's the time to pull back and not trust.

I mean, I'm SURE I've got some general rules I follow which aren't just "gut instinct" but I'm having trouble articulating them.

But to sum, how do you know when someone is bad news?