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IMPORTANT BUSINESS
May. 5th, 2010 05:39 pmAbagond Poll: MOST GORGEOUS EAST ASIAN MAN IN THE WORLD
GO VOTE!
... I still haven't decided who to vote for. LIFE IS SO HARD. T_T
GO VOTE!
... I still haven't decided who to vote for. LIFE IS SO HARD. T_T
MOAR Lion Dance!
Feb. 10th, 2010 11:06 amSo, moar lion dance pictures.
Here's a shot of the platform for the second lion dance of the evening:
I'm told by an aunt that this platform was innovated by Malaysian lion dancers, and exported to China, so many early international lion dance competitions would have them, but only Malaysian troupes would use them, and other troupes remained on the ground. Much like how yee sang was created in Ipoh and then exported to China.
( Moar pics! )Hope you liked the pics! And captions.
Here's a shot of the platform for the second lion dance of the evening:
I'm told by an aunt that this platform was innovated by Malaysian lion dancers, and exported to China, so many early international lion dance competitions would have them, but only Malaysian troupes would use them, and other troupes remained on the ground. Much like how yee sang was created in Ipoh and then exported to China.
( Moar pics! )Hope you liked the pics! And captions.
Lion Dance!
Feb. 9th, 2010 11:16 pmI has lion dance pictures.
Occasion was, my family is buying a new house in Setia Eco Park, which is a new housing estate. Mostly big houses, bungalows we call them. So, new residents were invited to this dinner. We went because of free food. There was also a lion dance.
Lion dances are fairly popular around the Lunar New Year. Folks get troupes to perform in their homes as a way to usher in good luck. The more noise, the better. These are the normal noisemakers for a show:
One big drum, and at least two cymbal players, and a gong ringer.
( More pics! )
We had another lion dance later in the evening, will post tomorrow if I have the time.
Occasion was, my family is buying a new house in Setia Eco Park, which is a new housing estate. Mostly big houses, bungalows we call them. So, new residents were invited to this dinner. We went because of free food. There was also a lion dance.
Lion dances are fairly popular around the Lunar New Year. Folks get troupes to perform in their homes as a way to usher in good luck. The more noise, the better. These are the normal noisemakers for a show:
One big drum, and at least two cymbal players, and a gong ringer.
( More pics! )
We had another lion dance later in the evening, will post tomorrow if I have the time.
I went to see a physician today about my hives, since my family cannot get over the fact that once in a while I break out in a fit of rashes. I wanted to try acupuncture, but this physician treated my brother's acne, so my mum trusts him more.
He had a look and started asking if I drank a lot of tea or ate a lot of fruits and veggies, which I haven't in Canada, but I do drink a lot of chrysenthemum tea and soya bean milk here. He then asked if I eat a lot of salads in Canada, which I clearly don't. Either way, his diagnosis is that I eat too much cooling foods ... which are like, veggies and fruits and various teas. And I have a surfeit of Vitamin C.
Don't ask me how this works. But if anybody has any clue, please let me know, because I don't understand it, either.
I was given a set of black pills, red pills, and liquid.
( Pics of my medicine under the cut. )
He had a look and started asking if I drank a lot of tea or ate a lot of fruits and veggies, which I haven't in Canada, but I do drink a lot of chrysenthemum tea and soya bean milk here. He then asked if I eat a lot of salads in Canada, which I clearly don't. Either way, his diagnosis is that I eat too much cooling foods ... which are like, veggies and fruits and various teas. And I have a surfeit of Vitamin C.
Don't ask me how this works. But if anybody has any clue, please let me know, because I don't understand it, either.
I was given a set of black pills, red pills, and liquid.
( Pics of my medicine under the cut. )
MOAR Ukelele Boy
Feb. 5th, 2010 02:37 pmRemember ukelele boy who busted on the Internetz with his super adorable cover of I'm Yours? I WANT TO SCHNORGLE HIM!!!!
Obladi Oblada by the Beatles:
While My Guitar Gently Weeps:
I have no idea what this is about, but it is way too cute for words, so I had to post it:
Obladi Oblada by the Beatles:
While My Guitar Gently Weeps:
I have no idea what this is about, but it is way too cute for words, so I had to post it:
Yes! I kid you not! There awas The Heroic Trio (HK title, int`l English title was Eastern Three Heroes) and the sequel, Heroic Trio 2: Executioners, aka Modern Day Wonder Heroes Legend.
The first movie is fair fantasy fare. The second movie was far more memorable for me, since I remember quite clearly Wonder Woman helping someone recover their stolen bagged water (this dystopian future has a water shortage). I also remember Anthony Wong`s masked character, and Wonder Woman being in prison for a while. She is so depressed over the loss of her family she refuses to eat. Then she notices that all the other prisoners and prison rats are dying after eating the bread. So she drinks the blood of live rats instead, and carves herself a new mask from a piece of metal lying around, and when that`s done, busts out of prison.
I also remember the ending, too.
The first movie is fair fantasy fare. The second movie was far more memorable for me, since I remember quite clearly Wonder Woman helping someone recover their stolen bagged water (this dystopian future has a water shortage). I also remember Anthony Wong`s masked character, and Wonder Woman being in prison for a while. She is so depressed over the loss of her family she refuses to eat. Then she notices that all the other prisoners and prison rats are dying after eating the bread. So she drinks the blood of live rats instead, and carves herself a new mask from a piece of metal lying around, and when that`s done, busts out of prison.
I also remember the ending, too.
Lady General Hua Mulan
Dec. 6th, 2009 12:44 amSo, if any of you wanted to know more about how the Disney re-telling differs from the actual story, well, wouldn't know where to start, since there're many different versions of Hua Mulan (her story stems from pretty much before the Tang Dynasty, and most anything from before the Tang Dynasty is hard to figure out), but the gist is the same - Mulan takes her father's place, becomes a great general, leads the troops to victory, and then goes home and resumes life as a woman. None of this saving the Emperor nonsense - she worked her ass off alongside fellow soldiers to get the glory. Don't ask me how she manages to hide being a woman for more than a decade.
However, I did find this! It's a 1964 movie of a Hua Mulan Chinese opera. So, you'll not only get treated to a more faithful version of the Mulan myth, but also to the joys of Chinese opera!
( Lady General Hua Mulan! )
However, I did find this! It's a 1964 movie of a Hua Mulan Chinese opera. So, you'll not only get treated to a more faithful version of the Mulan myth, but also to the joys of Chinese opera!
( Lady General Hua Mulan! )
Made of Several Layers of Awesome
Dec. 5th, 2009 01:11 pmh/t
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stephiepenguin (I'm browsing people who've friended me but I haven't friended them back - I do this fairly regularly.) I cried while watching it. Will write a post articulating why in a bit.ETA: Longer trailer:
Woot! The 5th Asian Women Blog Carnival is taking submissions! Hosted by stephiepenguin, the theme is: Who I Am When I'm (not) With You.
Here's the submission post!
stephiepenguin, the theme is: Who I Am When I'm (not) With You.Here's the submission post!
Assorted Teresa Teng songs
Nov. 16th, 2009 09:31 pmWhile I'm still on a video kick.
But first, a song by Noel Quinlan, from his album series Middle Kingdom. The song and poem are called "Mulan" which, yes, is about the legendary figure. I couldn't translate the poem for you though, sorry, but the song is pretty darn awesome:
( Teresa Teng was a famous pop star in the 70's and 80's, internationally acclaimed across Asia and she could sing in several languages, too )
But first, a song by Noel Quinlan, from his album series Middle Kingdom. The song and poem are called "Mulan" which, yes, is about the legendary figure. I couldn't translate the poem for you though, sorry, but the song is pretty darn awesome:
( Teresa Teng was a famous pop star in the 70's and 80's, internationally acclaimed across Asia and she could sing in several languages, too )
I'll be honest, this is more for my own pleasure than anything else, but these are too good not to share.
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The joyful things one gets to share when researching!
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The joyful things one gets to share when researching!
It's Malaysia's National Day
Aug. 31st, 2009 08:51 pm... I really ought to have written something about this maybe 12 or 24 hours earlier, but instead I shall just link you to the 4th Asian Women's Blog Carnival's call for submissions!!!!!!
ETA OK, I shall also share a poem.
songsang (buat tok awang)
a. latiff mohidin
maafkan aku
jika aku sering saja
berlaku songsang
terutama
di perayaan tahunan
seperti hari ini
apabila orang
bangun berdiri
aku duduk
apabila orang
bertepuk tangan
aku diam
apabila orang
ghairah berbincang
aku tidur
apabila orang
lepaskan merpati
aku taburkan padi
orang lain
telah merdeka
aku belum
maafkan aku
jika aku sering saja
berlaku songsang
aku sekadar ingin
mengingatkan
My weak translation:
Forgive me
if I'm being contrary
and acting arbitrary (topsy-turvily)
especially
on annual celebrations
like today
when people
rise to stand
I sit
when people
clap hands
I am silent
when people
discuss actively
I sleep
when people
release doves
I spread (on the ground) (paddy) rice
other people
have gained [freedom / independence]
I haven't
Forgive me
if I'm being contrary
and acting arbitrary (topsy-turvily)
I only wish
to remember
ETA OK, I shall also share a poem.
songsang (buat tok awang)
a. latiff mohidin
maafkan aku
jika aku sering saja
berlaku songsang
terutama
di perayaan tahunan
seperti hari ini
apabila orang
bangun berdiri
aku duduk
apabila orang
bertepuk tangan
aku diam
apabila orang
ghairah berbincang
aku tidur
apabila orang
lepaskan merpati
aku taburkan padi
orang lain
telah merdeka
aku belum
maafkan aku
jika aku sering saja
berlaku songsang
aku sekadar ingin
mengingatkan
My weak translation:
Forgive me
if I'm being contrary
and acting arbitrary (topsy-turvily)
especially
on annual celebrations
like today
when people
rise to stand
I sit
when people
clap hands
I am silent
when people
discuss actively
I sleep
when people
release doves
I spread (on the ground) (paddy) rice
other people
have gained [freedom / independence]
I haven't
Forgive me
if I'm being contrary
and acting arbitrary (topsy-turvily)
I only wish
to remember
Sunday Linkfest!
Jul. 5th, 2009 05:52 pmIt's a Sunday linkfest! Sorry for taking so long. I faceplanted yesterday and scrapped my knee for the first time in years. Not only that, but my knee is still a bit swollen. If I leave it alone for a long time, when I start moving again, it's sore. Oh well.
Onto the linkfest!
Over at the Acting Out Edition, I angst about some fat issues (nothing new for you folks!), and wondered whether the Body Shop would ever produce an American [flower] scent. It's also a steampunking triple-threat this time! A discussion on saying "the point is", a thought on Orientalism, and... a post you've already seen before. Also a 101 on a complicated theory on the rise of patriarchy alongside the idea of transcendent gods.
I also did a bit of RaceFail reading, and this correlation between a queer person's troubles with a PoC's troubles struck me as sensitive.
Here's a post called, "Don't Be That Guy!" which articulates the main attitudes that lead to douchebag behaviour. I found it quite affirming.
So, sometime last year, there was a huge deal in the liberal blogosphere about the role of men in feminism. Penny Red talks about the main problem, from the women bloggers' POV, which apparently most men bloggers do not understand.
Tracey of Unapologetically Female articulates common themes in commentary wrt to Hollywood sexism. These things are a pattern, phew!
It's a wonderful week of wonderful guest posts at Feministe! My favs:
amandaw from three rivers fog on dissability and being respectful.
Queen Emily on the difficulty of filling out forms as a transgender person.
Not a guest blog, but Holly points out that a grandpa has an agenda, sending his grandson to harass a transgender girl by following her into the washroom and calling her 'faggot'. He argued that his grandson should have the right to use the girls' washroom, if the transgender girl was allowed to.
Continuing the theme of transphobia, apparently the term "cis" is hostile terminology. Follow the drama at Questioning Transphobia! My favourite quote:
"Oh my God. I don’t get this at all. I mean, for a start there’s the whole “cisgendered people are the majority and hardly an oppressed group whose self-identification is an important part of staking out their place in the world” and then there’s “what the hell is insulting about “cis”?”"
I don't understand what's insulting about 'cis' either. Complaining that using "cis" as an insult is as expressed in this pic by gudbuytjane:
Renee of Womanist Musings has some strong posts on patronizing behaviour towards disabled people and Lynndie England being unable to find a job. If you don't remember who Lynddie England is, she's the women who was pictured torturing Abu Ghraib prisoners.
A discussion on how abuse doesn't always manifest in physical violence, and sometimes in pregnancy. h/t to Cara of the Curvature.
Into the geek realm! An old article on Geek Social Fallacies. I definitely have some form of GSF4 and GSF5.
twice_immigrant has a very interesting thought on the Borg! In JournalFen, a big discussion on triggers, and on asking fanfic authours to put up a warning in case their fics featuring rape trigger someone. Apparently asking people to put up a trigger warning is damaging to their authourial integrity. Who knew.
On the Asian women carnival front, recently there was an intra-PoC discussion: colorblue responded to a carnival post, and there was dialogue between the two. oyceter felt the need to apologize in response to colorblue and here is the resultant discussion. It's hard to apologize the way these folks did (honestly, and being able to pinpoint what they're apologizing for) but it's a necessary lesson! In accordance to all this, ciderpress has refined further guidelines and articulated more clearly a vision for the carnival. A quote:
"We are not safe from each other. I think it is important to ensure we have communal space so that we have the ability to reach out and support rather than silence and suppress those among us who are particularly vulnerable. I think communal space is vital in dismantling privilege, our own as well as those of other people."
Very noble, very true, very hard for some people to swallow, but in the end, we can't cop out, even though it's so easy to ignore what's going on online, since we don't actually see or feel the hurt we inflict on others. My carnival is not affected by these new guidelines, but I'll do my best to follow them anyway. Call for submissions is still on!
Onto the linkfest!
Over at the Acting Out Edition, I angst about some fat issues (nothing new for you folks!), and wondered whether the Body Shop would ever produce an American [flower] scent. It's also a steampunking triple-threat this time! A discussion on saying "the point is", a thought on Orientalism, and... a post you've already seen before. Also a 101 on a complicated theory on the rise of patriarchy alongside the idea of transcendent gods.
I also did a bit of RaceFail reading, and this correlation between a queer person's troubles with a PoC's troubles struck me as sensitive.
Here's a post called, "Don't Be That Guy!" which articulates the main attitudes that lead to douchebag behaviour. I found it quite affirming.
So, sometime last year, there was a huge deal in the liberal blogosphere about the role of men in feminism. Penny Red talks about the main problem, from the women bloggers' POV, which apparently most men bloggers do not understand.
Tracey of Unapologetically Female articulates common themes in commentary wrt to Hollywood sexism. These things are a pattern, phew!
It's a wonderful week of wonderful guest posts at Feministe! My favs:
amandaw from three rivers fog on dissability and being respectful.
Queen Emily on the difficulty of filling out forms as a transgender person.
Not a guest blog, but Holly points out that a grandpa has an agenda, sending his grandson to harass a transgender girl by following her into the washroom and calling her 'faggot'. He argued that his grandson should have the right to use the girls' washroom, if the transgender girl was allowed to.
Continuing the theme of transphobia, apparently the term "cis" is hostile terminology. Follow the drama at Questioning Transphobia! My favourite quote:
"Oh my God. I don’t get this at all. I mean, for a start there’s the whole “cisgendered people are the majority and hardly an oppressed group whose self-identification is an important part of staking out their place in the world” and then there’s “what the hell is insulting about “cis”?”"
I don't understand what's insulting about 'cis' either. Complaining that using "cis" as an insult is as expressed in this pic by gudbuytjane:
Renee of Womanist Musings has some strong posts on patronizing behaviour towards disabled people and Lynndie England being unable to find a job. If you don't remember who Lynddie England is, she's the women who was pictured torturing Abu Ghraib prisoners.
A discussion on how abuse doesn't always manifest in physical violence, and sometimes in pregnancy. h/t to Cara of the Curvature.
Into the geek realm! An old article on Geek Social Fallacies. I definitely have some form of GSF4 and GSF5.
twice_immigrant has a very interesting thought on the Borg! In JournalFen, a big discussion on triggers, and on asking fanfic authours to put up a warning in case their fics featuring rape trigger someone. Apparently asking people to put up a trigger warning is damaging to their authourial integrity. Who knew. On the Asian women carnival front, recently there was an intra-PoC discussion: colorblue responded to a carnival post, and there was dialogue between the two. oyceter felt the need to apologize in response to colorblue and here is the resultant discussion. It's hard to apologize the way these folks did (honestly, and being able to pinpoint what they're apologizing for) but it's a necessary lesson! In accordance to all this, ciderpress has refined further guidelines and articulated more clearly a vision for the carnival. A quote:
"We are not safe from each other. I think it is important to ensure we have communal space so that we have the ability to reach out and support rather than silence and suppress those among us who are particularly vulnerable. I think communal space is vital in dismantling privilege, our own as well as those of other people."
Very noble, very true, very hard for some people to swallow, but in the end, we can't cop out, even though it's so easy to ignore what's going on online, since we don't actually see or feel the hurt we inflict on others. My carnival is not affected by these new guidelines, but I'll do my best to follow them anyway. Call for submissions is still on!
I'll be hosting the next Asian Women Blog Carnival!! <3 Thanks, ciderpress for the opportunity!
Call for submissions will start next week, I hope ^^ I need to work on that post. The theme will be about the intersection between culture and sexism from Asian women's perspectives. I picked it because I want Asian women who don't live in North America to be able to discuss sexism in their own contexts, rather than from typically-white-women's perspectives.
So excited! *jigs*
For those of you who don't know what a blog carnival is, clickums. For me, it's an amazing way to get in touch with other perspectives and voices that may or may not be like mine.
ciderpress for the opportunity! Call for submissions will start next week, I hope ^^ I need to work on that post. The theme will be about the intersection between culture and sexism from Asian women's perspectives. I picked it because I want Asian women who don't live in North America to be able to discuss sexism in their own contexts, rather than from typically-white-women's perspectives.
So excited! *jigs*
For those of you who don't know what a blog carnival is, clickums. For me, it's an amazing way to get in touch with other perspectives and voices that may or may not be like mine.
2nd Asian Women Blog Carnival!
May. 15th, 2009 08:11 pmYES! It's here! I missed it somehow. Anyways! Submissions are due June 1!
So I finally started the Acting Out edition of this blog. Anybody who's interested in following it can add http://jhameia.blogspot.com/ to their blogrolls. For those of you who're just interested in a buncha things I wrote this week:
- Problems with Marriage
- Critiquing Glow magazine, May 2009. I get Glow magazine because I signed up for it with my Shoppers Optimum card, and I kinda like it.
- Race in Cartoons
- Random Story about my oldest teddy bear.
- Name issues, which tie in with language issues.
- One of my race issues. More as I go along.
- My ally issues.
Some of them will be recurring themes as I roll along. I has much issues.
And because I like to share, here are some other links:
From Shakesville
Guest blog series on Avatar: The Last Airbender! Parts one, two, three, and four.
Smart articulate guest post by a sophomore in high school (really!) about a run-in with Truth Crusaders and why we cannot take our current rights for granted.
Brief discussion about daddy-daughter dances and how easily they are turned skeevy in today's prevalence of "purity balls".
From Feministe:
piny talks about re-transitioning here and here (from what I understand, and my reading comprehension skills are failing me slightly these days, she transitioned into being a male, didn't want to remain male for whatever reason, and re-transitioned back). She also talks about non-trans people making trans jokes, and why that fucking sucks, particularly since they're often made by people who identify as progressive liberals. Look, if you're not gay or lesbian, words like "fag" and "dyke" are NOT yours to reclaim. If you're not trans, words like "tranny" are NOT yours to throw around for your amusement. These are words that have historically been used by those outside those groups to put down those within said groups. And no, "it's a fucking joke" doesn't matter. It still fucking hurts. So stop it. Comments like that are what continue to alienate LGBTQ folks from so-called safe, liberal, progressive spaces.
This follows up on the boycott of Feministe by transfolk who got sick and tired of cis privilege running rampant. The goss is here. I give kudos to Cara for acknowledging the fuck-up that goes on, but then, the forgiveness isn't mine to extend, not being trans myself.
At Pandagon, Amanda Marcotte discusses getting married while being feminist. Namely, how difficult it is. OK, Amanda Marcotte writes a fuckton and I wonder how much time she has on her hands to write that fuckton, just about everyday. I mean, shit.
Hugo Schwyzer (yes, I finally started reading him again) takes on how current standards means a man finds his best - and only - friend in his wife. There are problems with Dude Nation, ya'll.
miz_evolution wrote a fab and thought-provoking piece on objectification - there's being sexually objectified that's part and parcel of being a sex worker, and then there's being turned into an object for pity by anti-pornographers.
At figleaf's, well, this post made me laugh today. He also made a great post on the language newspapers have been using for a recent spate of mass killings (men killing their whole families for whatever reason).
At Racialicious:
Latoya Peterson highlights some quotes which reveal just how really fucking racist Hollywood is behind the screens.
Tami wrote about the "problem" with First Lady Michelle Obama. Mainly, that white people can't box her into neat little stereotypes of black women. Also, because her down-to-earth fashion tastes ignore the larger fashion designers. You know. Those haute couture types. Who're also white.
Jehanzab Dar wrote about reconciling with his Pakistani identity. I totally understand where he's coming from.
Trigger Warning: Fiqah's post on the helplessness of watching other women being abused.
Wendi Muse writes about the fashion industry. And the people who write up articles about fashion shows. Who have privilege issues. AFRICA IS A CONTINENT, NOT A COUNTRY. FFS.
And a little review on Secret Identities, an anthology of short comics starring Asian-American superheroes! I'm kinda psyched.
- Problems with Marriage
- Critiquing Glow magazine, May 2009. I get Glow magazine because I signed up for it with my Shoppers Optimum card, and I kinda like it.
- Race in Cartoons
- Random Story about my oldest teddy bear.
- Name issues, which tie in with language issues.
- One of my race issues. More as I go along.
- My ally issues.
Some of them will be recurring themes as I roll along. I has much issues.
And because I like to share, here are some other links:
From Shakesville
Guest blog series on Avatar: The Last Airbender! Parts one, two, three, and four.
Smart articulate guest post by a sophomore in high school (really!) about a run-in with Truth Crusaders and why we cannot take our current rights for granted.
Brief discussion about daddy-daughter dances and how easily they are turned skeevy in today's prevalence of "purity balls".
From Feministe:
piny talks about re-transitioning here and here (from what I understand, and my reading comprehension skills are failing me slightly these days, she transitioned into being a male, didn't want to remain male for whatever reason, and re-transitioned back). She also talks about non-trans people making trans jokes, and why that fucking sucks, particularly since they're often made by people who identify as progressive liberals. Look, if you're not gay or lesbian, words like "fag" and "dyke" are NOT yours to reclaim. If you're not trans, words like "tranny" are NOT yours to throw around for your amusement. These are words that have historically been used by those outside those groups to put down those within said groups. And no, "it's a fucking joke" doesn't matter. It still fucking hurts. So stop it. Comments like that are what continue to alienate LGBTQ folks from so-called safe, liberal, progressive spaces.
This follows up on the boycott of Feministe by transfolk who got sick and tired of cis privilege running rampant. The goss is here. I give kudos to Cara for acknowledging the fuck-up that goes on, but then, the forgiveness isn't mine to extend, not being trans myself.
At Pandagon, Amanda Marcotte discusses getting married while being feminist. Namely, how difficult it is. OK, Amanda Marcotte writes a fuckton and I wonder how much time she has on her hands to write that fuckton, just about everyday. I mean, shit.
Hugo Schwyzer (yes, I finally started reading him again) takes on how current standards means a man finds his best - and only - friend in his wife. There are problems with Dude Nation, ya'll.
miz_evolution wrote a fab and thought-provoking piece on objectification - there's being sexually objectified that's part and parcel of being a sex worker, and then there's being turned into an object for pity by anti-pornographers.At figleaf's, well, this post made me laugh today. He also made a great post on the language newspapers have been using for a recent spate of mass killings (men killing their whole families for whatever reason).
At Racialicious:
Latoya Peterson highlights some quotes which reveal just how really fucking racist Hollywood is behind the screens.
Tami wrote about the "problem" with First Lady Michelle Obama. Mainly, that white people can't box her into neat little stereotypes of black women. Also, because her down-to-earth fashion tastes ignore the larger fashion designers. You know. Those haute couture types. Who're also white.
Jehanzab Dar wrote about reconciling with his Pakistani identity. I totally understand where he's coming from.
Trigger Warning: Fiqah's post on the helplessness of watching other women being abused.
Wendi Muse writes about the fashion industry. And the people who write up articles about fashion shows. Who have privilege issues. AFRICA IS A CONTINENT, NOT A COUNTRY. FFS.
And a little review on Secret Identities, an anthology of short comics starring Asian-American superheroes! I'm kinda psyched.
Calling my Malaysian peers
Mar. 22nd, 2009 09:11 pmSo it occurred to me after doing some heavy-duty reading at Hugo Schwyzer's (and finally connecting some dots with other feminist blogs as well) that crying is apparently gendered female in this part of the world (North America).
Which isn't my experience.
When I was about eleven years old, my dad got mad at me for some reason, and found that I had opened a new can of condensed milk while having not yet finished the last can which still had some condensed milk mixed with water that I had intended to mix in with my morning drink a few mornings previous.
This was in the days when my dad was, when pissed off, easily abusive and The Scariest Person On Earth, and he shoved the can into my face, demanding that I drink it right there and then, and me being me and not seeing what the big deal was except that my dad when PISSED OFF is fucking scary, I started crying and dropped the can.
My mom happened to come into the kitchen then, demanding to know what had happened, and my dad snapped his explanation at her. Since she agreed, she took one look at me and said, "stop crying like a baby. You should be ashamed of yourself, crying like that."
So, growing up, the cultural cue, at least in my family, was that crying was a baby thing, something one only does when one doesn't have the reasoning faculty to realize that crying looks embarrassing and, well, childish. (OK, actually I don't know what the reason behind being ashamed at crying was.)
But thinking it over, it could have been altogether possible that crying was simply not an option for anyone unless it was something seriously upsetting (like the death of a family. Being peeing-in-your-pants scared of your parents was not a reason to cry) - TV dramas had both men and women crying at their vulnerable moments, but crying was seen more as a result of weakness or extreme burden than anything gendered.
So, fellow Malaysians (or generally, fellow Asians), agree / disagree? What do you think?
Which isn't my experience.
When I was about eleven years old, my dad got mad at me for some reason, and found that I had opened a new can of condensed milk while having not yet finished the last can which still had some condensed milk mixed with water that I had intended to mix in with my morning drink a few mornings previous.
This was in the days when my dad was, when pissed off, easily abusive and The Scariest Person On Earth, and he shoved the can into my face, demanding that I drink it right there and then, and me being me and not seeing what the big deal was except that my dad when PISSED OFF is fucking scary, I started crying and dropped the can.
My mom happened to come into the kitchen then, demanding to know what had happened, and my dad snapped his explanation at her. Since she agreed, she took one look at me and said, "stop crying like a baby. You should be ashamed of yourself, crying like that."
So, growing up, the cultural cue, at least in my family, was that crying was a baby thing, something one only does when one doesn't have the reasoning faculty to realize that crying looks embarrassing and, well, childish. (OK, actually I don't know what the reason behind being ashamed at crying was.)
But thinking it over, it could have been altogether possible that crying was simply not an option for anyone unless it was something seriously upsetting (like the death of a family. Being peeing-in-your-pants scared of your parents was not a reason to cry) - TV dramas had both men and women crying at their vulnerable moments, but crying was seen more as a result of weakness or extreme burden than anything gendered.
So, fellow Malaysians (or generally, fellow Asians), agree / disagree? What do you think?
Asian Women Blog Carnival
Mar. 8th, 2009 12:18 pmYup. It's being hosted on yennega by ciderpress. I've been a bit remiss on my reading but catching up.
Today is also International Women's Day.
And hopefully I will be writing something worth reading today.
yennega by ciderpress. I've been a bit remiss on my reading but catching up. Today is also International Women's Day.
And hopefully I will be writing something worth reading today.
Ooooh, aaaaahhh.
Feb. 14th, 2009 03:25 pmDisgrasian received a cease-and-desist order from Tila Tequila's people because they quoted something she said last year about the Miley Cyrus affair.
I'm not sure "BRING IT, BITCH" is something I would say to that order, but I'm pretty sure lots of people quote celebrities and other public figures a lot without getting told that they're infringing on copyright. How the hell do you copyright something you said, quite randomly, on your TV show? (Particularly when the source or the quote was quite publicly acknowledged?)
In any case, here's me putting on my hardhat, elbow and knee braces, and heavy winter boots in preparation for the fray.
I'm not sure "BRING IT, BITCH" is something I would say to that order, but I'm pretty sure lots of people quote celebrities and other public figures a lot without getting told that they're infringing on copyright. How the hell do you copyright something you said, quite randomly, on your TV show? (Particularly when the source or the quote was quite publicly acknowledged?)
In any case, here's me putting on my hardhat, elbow and knee braces, and heavy winter boots in preparation for the fray.
