Blog For Choice Day!
Jan. 22nd, 2009 10:02 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jhameiaWhile I was staying with Cousin Cin, somehow, we had more conversations than last year. Of course, this wouldn't be much of a surprise, seeing that we were more familiar with each other, and I was staying for longer this time.
I had to rush to replace my NuvaRing because I forgot to take it out, AND I forgot that I was due for my period. (Idiotically enough, I had set my Singaore trip for the week I was supposed to have my period.) While on my way to replace it in the bathroom, I talked to Cousin Cin about it, and she was adamant that "she wouldn't do it, because her religion doesn't allow it."
What was nice about the conversation was her willingness to listen to me talk about it, and not tell me not to take it. It was nice. She gave me a Look, of course, but she didn't feel the need to take me to task, nor judge me, nor press me for reasons to take BC (besides which, my reasons are pretty darn mundane. I got no wild sex life, yo.)
A lot of people are anti-contraceptives because they think it gives people the freedom to have sex whenever they want. Then you have clowns masquerading as educators telling people that "having pre-marital sex is like juggling machetes".
And, well, if people want to have pre-marital sex, and they're having safe, sane, consensual sex, what is wrong with that?
Reasons to be Pro-Choice (yoinking this from Sybil Vane at BitchPhD):
- Because people's bodies are their own business.
- Because children are expensive and deserve all the care and attention they can get from their parents.
- Because not everyone deserves to have nor wants children. And by "doesn't deserve", I mean they simply would not be able to provide children with the care and love they need.
- Because people are complicated, and problems are complex, thus an absolute NO CHOICE is more harmful than an absolute YES CHOICE.
- Because having sex is fun and wonderful, and we should all be able to have fun and wonderful sex without the tension of whether one might get pregnant.
- Because children are precious and should be treated as such, not simply popped out whenever.
- Because it takes a village to raise a child, yet for so many of us, we only have a partner and maybe a couple of parents to help out in raising our child.
- Because there's nothing wrong in withholding the use of our own uteruses to help out other people in raising their children.
- Because children, while infinitely precious, are also great consumers, and we don't have a lot of resources left. Granted, the greatest child consumers are actually grown-ups, but still...
- Because the world's resources are also precious, and we need to balance between the preciousness of the world and our children.
- Because women's bodies are not simply incubators for the next generation, and every woman should have the chance to grow into the person they want to be without being tied down to children if that's not what they want.
- Because we are better served by helping each other make the choices that will build our community, and so is our next generation better served by helping our generation, their parents, to be the fullest humans to the greatest extent.
Anyways, this is a lame post, but it IS Blog For Choice day, so I wanted to make sure I said something. At the official Blog for Choice site, the topic for today is apparently:
What is your top pro-choice hope for President Obama and/or the new Congress?
And I gotta say,
RESCIND THE GLOBAL GAG RULE.
Some posts on this already, better written than anything I can talk from a Feministing Community member, Planned Parenthood, Feministe, and RH Reality Check.
I had to rush to replace my NuvaRing because I forgot to take it out, AND I forgot that I was due for my period. (Idiotically enough, I had set my Singaore trip for the week I was supposed to have my period.) While on my way to replace it in the bathroom, I talked to Cousin Cin about it, and she was adamant that "she wouldn't do it, because her religion doesn't allow it."
What was nice about the conversation was her willingness to listen to me talk about it, and not tell me not to take it. It was nice. She gave me a Look, of course, but she didn't feel the need to take me to task, nor judge me, nor press me for reasons to take BC (besides which, my reasons are pretty darn mundane. I got no wild sex life, yo.)
A lot of people are anti-contraceptives because they think it gives people the freedom to have sex whenever they want. Then you have clowns masquerading as educators telling people that "having pre-marital sex is like juggling machetes".
And, well, if people want to have pre-marital sex, and they're having safe, sane, consensual sex, what is wrong with that?
Reasons to be Pro-Choice (yoinking this from Sybil Vane at BitchPhD):
- Because people's bodies are their own business.
- Because children are expensive and deserve all the care and attention they can get from their parents.
- Because not everyone deserves to have nor wants children. And by "doesn't deserve", I mean they simply would not be able to provide children with the care and love they need.
- Because people are complicated, and problems are complex, thus an absolute NO CHOICE is more harmful than an absolute YES CHOICE.
- Because having sex is fun and wonderful, and we should all be able to have fun and wonderful sex without the tension of whether one might get pregnant.
- Because children are precious and should be treated as such, not simply popped out whenever.
- Because it takes a village to raise a child, yet for so many of us, we only have a partner and maybe a couple of parents to help out in raising our child.
- Because there's nothing wrong in withholding the use of our own uteruses to help out other people in raising their children.
- Because children, while infinitely precious, are also great consumers, and we don't have a lot of resources left. Granted, the greatest child consumers are actually grown-ups, but still...
- Because the world's resources are also precious, and we need to balance between the preciousness of the world and our children.
- Because women's bodies are not simply incubators for the next generation, and every woman should have the chance to grow into the person they want to be without being tied down to children if that's not what they want.
- Because we are better served by helping each other make the choices that will build our community, and so is our next generation better served by helping our generation, their parents, to be the fullest humans to the greatest extent.
Anyways, this is a lame post, but it IS Blog For Choice day, so I wanted to make sure I said something. At the official Blog for Choice site, the topic for today is apparently:
What is your top pro-choice hope for President Obama and/or the new Congress?
And I gotta say,
RESCIND THE GLOBAL GAG RULE.
Some posts on this already, better written than anything I can talk from a Feministing Community member, Planned Parenthood, Feministe, and RH Reality Check.