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Changed the theme of the LJ, and colour and stuff. I was actually going for a deconstructed look, but I think this works well.

Girlie Games And Why They Are Annoying

I think one of those things which definitely works against girls in this whole "Let's Get Equality" game, and our bid To Be Taken Seriously, is this silly propensity to play games.

Oh, you know what I mean. "I like this guy, but I can't tell him, because then he wouldn't appreciate it, so I'm going all out to make it look like I don't like him, and get to know him so he'll fall for me, and I won't tell him I like him unless I'm very sure he likes me too."

Uh, what? Why can't you tell him?

"You just don't tell people these sorts of things."

Why not?

"Because it's just not done."

Okay, then why the whole lapoolah and why not just get to know him?

"Oh, I am, but I have to reel him in too."

Why is it so important to not tell him, or show some sign, that you like him, unless he does the same?

"To save face."

"Saving face" is the most worthless game in the entire social history of Humankind. So many stupid, useless runarounds have been finagled all because someone didn't want to risk looking stupid. There is such a thing as losing gracefully, ladies and gentlemen. There is such a thing as taking risks and losing all in face of a greater gain. But the big question is, if it's not worth risking your all, why bother?

Pardon my cynicism. I guess I'm just an extremely passionate person and I don't like wasting any of my emotional energy on pursuits of dumb people. Plus, this sort of bullshit only further the stereotype that girlies go for dumb guys and like to play games.

And I guess I shouldn't hold everybody else up to my yardstick as well. But boyfriends aren't things, they aren't prizes to be won. They're human beings and should be treated like so. Andrew's not my fucktoy I won by Playing Fishing - he's a warm human being I decided I really want to be around, and I told him so, and he feels the same way, so we're dating. If he had rejected me, that's not 'losing face' - that's just us not having the same interest in each other. There's no "lost honour" in being rejected - shit like that happens, and if you're too goddamn childish to deal with it and have to avoid it by playing all these dumb games, STOP PLAYING, PERIOD.

All this dumbass confusion, worrying, anxiety, bitching to friends about how So-and-So is sending mixed signals - you're doing the same thing too, by playing "I like you but won't say it". Friggin' stop it!

Despite my impending graduation...

I still feel the need to get little digs at Dalhousie every so often.

Aimhreidh says:
the canadian vet med association has a symposium every year and next year it's at the vet school in halifax
Jha says:
........
Aimhreidh says:
mhmm
Jha says:
we have a vet schoo
Jha says:
oh wait
Aimhreidh says:
so I may go
Jha says:
dalhousie exists
Aimhreidh says:
haha
Jha says:
right.

I'm sure any of you who has felt any loyalty whatsoever to your own school has felt the same way at some point. It's perfectly stupid, of course, but it's kinda like gently poking your elder brother in the ribs when he's not looking; I don't know about you, but I still do that to my brother even though we're both grownups, and I really couldn't tell you why.