Not giving context because I don't want to add fuel to the fire.

[jhameia]

I'm sorry to have to say this, but if you're going to write a review about Evelyn Evelyn and dismiss the criticism from the people who are facing the oppression that our horrendously ablist culture is bringing up as being "too angry", you're missing the point of feminism, which is, you know, at its very base, anti-oppression. And after days and tens of comments of people pointing out to you how accessibility issues are very real and have effects on lives of actual people, you know, much like how sexism has very real effects on women, which is what feminism addresses, you do not get to say this:

I’d say you’re all more than welcome to come and kick my ass, but I’m afraid my house isn’t wheelchair accessible.

Saying this to people who identify as PWD? This is schoolyard bullying. This is pushing a person smaller than you down to the ground. This is not levity. As a lover of humour, I am deeply insulted and incensed you even call this levity. How dare you? Throwing sand into a person's eyes and laughing is not levity.

It is cruelty.

I'm stumped that the mod of a site called Feminist Review has the gall to allow such a cruel person run rampant. But after all the shit that has broken out in the feminist blogosphere recently, I'm not surprised. Feminists are not free from the sociopathic conditioning that the larger kyriarchal culture breeds in us. This is just another bit in a long line of evidence.

So... this post doesn't actually have a point after I refused to engage in that thread after the mod's first response to me (which amounted to, "oh, but we want to have a dialogue! we just can't make people hold back, that wouldn't be fair! which really means I won't be holding people accountable for playing into oppression!") but I just wanted to say to the FWDs who've been fighting the good fight, you are awesome. And I am so sorry you had to even fight.

Comments

[annaham.livejournal.com]

JHA, JUST FYI, YOU ARE AMAZING. You make me not-ashamed to call myself a feminist (which is fucking DIFFICULT for me, at times).

<3

[fantasyecho.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Who, me? YOU are! After all that shit the AFP Cult put you through! You and everyone like you are why I keep calling myself a feminist. <3

[dorian-is-i.livejournal.com]

You = win, as does everyone who kept engaging in that thread despite how MONSTROUSLY OBTUSE the mods there were being.

I look up to y'all so much; you don't even know.

why context is necessary

[(Anonymous)]

That comment is not on the Feminist Review blog, Jha. And it would never be permitted on the Feminist Review site, so writing a post without that added context is enormously dishonest. (Where is this comment actually from anyway? And who even wrote it?)

Your subjective paraphrasing of my comments also seriously misses the mark, so if anyone is interested in what truly is on the FR blog and what my actual comments were, both the review and the comments that emerged from the review are here:
http://feministreview.blogspot.com/2010/05/evelyn-evelyn.html

No one is from kyriarchal conditioning, Jha. Not feminists. Not PWD. Not you. Not me. No one.

Re: why context is necessary

[fantasyecho.livejournal.com]

No one who reads my blog here really agrees with you (and why on earth would you follow me here anyway?), besides which, most of my audience here don't actually care about this sort of stuff (hence, lack of context - anyone who gets it, gets it).

If you really wanted to know, it appears to be Natalie who wrote the comment, and it should be easy enough to find since you're tracking folks down.

The plain fact is, whether or not she wrote it at FR, the fact is you still allowed her to post there, which shows a severe lack of judgement.

Also, while we might not be free from kyriarchal condition, you know what? I expect more. Especially from people who call themselves feminist.

Seriously, tracking people down to their personal spaces? Why would you do that? I've already said I don't want to engage.

Please don't post here again.

Re: why context is necessary

[(Anonymous)]

As is the case with many bloggers, I get an alert from Google whenever FR's name comes up around the web. Given that you intentionally failed to link to the blog post you're referencing and are claiming to represent my words, but actually have seriously misrepresented them (a move that lacks integrity), I have a right to set the record straight and provide the link to anyone who happens across your site so they can read what I actually said.

I also find it very troubling that you're offering no evidence to support your claim that Natalie wrote this comment, and refuse to say where is it posted. I Googled the comment and the only place that comes up is this site. I truly hope your readers don't accept your claim as fact w/out any evidence (though it seems at least one already does, and that is shameful on her part). I hope even more that you haven't concocted a lie for some sort of personal satisfaction. That'd be really f-ed up.

No, I won't post here anymore. And I won't be back. Though I hope you have enough of a sound personal ethic to provide a link to where that comment can be found.

Re: why context is necessary

[fantasyecho.livejournal.com]

Oh. Well then.

Once more, with feeling, not interested in engaging. Don't worry, most readers of this here LJ won't care about this issue anyway, much like you.

Re: why context is necessary

[fionnabhair-ii.livejournal.com]

Jeez, what is with people, lately, who keep thinking that they have some deity-given right to spew bile wherever they please? IT DOESN'T APPLY IN PRIVATE SPACES, like someone's personal LJ,

Re: why context is necessary

[acrimonyastraea.livejournal.com]

If I found out that I'd been giving the benefit of the doubt to and defending someone who ended up saying what Natalie said on my journal I would be embarassed and apologetic. You're not helping yourself here.

None of us are free from the kyriarchy. That doesn't give us license to not bother trying to be better. It certainly doesn't give women license to be free from criticism any more than it would give a gay man license to be misogynist without being called on it.